Estaba hablando por telefono con mi papa y le contaba de mi busqueda de trabajos y que me citaron para una entrevista para este viernes. El mi dice que si miro que me convenga pues que bien pero si no, no hay prisa. Queire que busque algo que me convenga y que valga la pena. Alcabo que tengo 2/3 meses de trabajo seguro por el momento. En eso yo le digo que me preocupa que se llegue el mes de Marzo y yo sin trabajo. Lo que me contesta mi papa fue fascinante y una realizacion que me puso a pensar. Mi dice, “Ah de eso no te preucupes. Tu tienes papeles, tienes educasion. Eso no es de preocuparse. Peores momentos hay y eso no es nada. Ah eso no es nada Ales, hay se acomoda uno y eso no es de que preocuparse. Aveses son las simples palabre de tu papa que te ayudan a ver las cosas en otra perspectiva.
December 27, 2017 By: Alejandra Salgado
I’ve been into comedy ever since I started watching George Lopez, when I was about 10 years old. Comedy brings people together and laughing makes you feel good. I love the feeling of your stomach being in a bit of pain after laughing so hard. Laughing so hard thatyour jaw becomes tired is also a great feeling. I’ve always wanted to go out to a comedy show and enjoy an evening of laughter. My first comedy show was at the Comedy and Magic Club in Hermosa Beach, California. I went with my best friend to see Cristela Alonzo. Cristela Alonzo is hilarious. She is a Mexican comedian, whom I can relate to and that doesn’t happen often. I mean come on! How many Latina comedians are out there? She’s from Texas and her story of struggle is very motivating. I share her feelings of wanting to be the best of what we can be and honoring the sacrifices our families have made. Growing up we want to be successful in our own terms to add value towards the struggles our families have had to endure as immigrants in America. It’s not easy but all worth it at the end. I feel happy, that not only did I have the chance to take a picture with her but, had a quick one-minute interview with her. Here is the video and I hope you all enjoy.
Let me know what you think of the video. What is your greatest accomplishment in life? And what motivated you to keep going and not to give up? Let me know in the comment section below and keep up the awesomeness of being you!
By: Alejandra Salgado December 01, 2017 @ 4:39PM
Well, the expected unexpected occurred today.
Not only is it Friday but it’s the first of December. I love first days of the months. The day feels like a new year. It’s a reminder of a new month to make better choices and another reminder of how fast times goes by. I wake up in the morning and I’m automatically in a good mood. That mentality of a new month was setting in already. Not only that, but it was finally the month of December. The month of holidays, spending time with family, lots of food and all the festivities involved. These are some of the things that make this month special. In addition, it is the last month of the year and slowly welcoming in a new year.
Worked proceeded as normal. Gale brought in the “morning bombs,” which is what he calls donuts. He brings us donuts every Friday. It’s become such a habit that we all wait for him in anticipation to have a piece of that fried American typical breakfast.
For lunch my operations (ops) team and I headed out to a Christmas Party. Our partners we make business with called, Camelot, invited us for an “Ugly Sweater Party.” I didn’t participate in the holiday spirit of wearing an ugly sweater. The food was delicious! I had a salad, mac n’ cheese, mashed potatoes, cornbread and coleslaw. For desert I had brownies and a mini cupcake. It was nice and I won a prize from one of their raffles! It consisted of hummus dip, crackers, apple cider, chocolates and other goodies.
We headed back to the office and we had two special guests from the Germany office. They were two gentleman who are the head supervisions of the whole North American region. I immediately felt the tension. We all gave each other worried looks. A look that made you feel that something was going on. Minutes passed and the tension, stress, and confusion started building up slowing. My heart was racing and I was anxious to know why we had these special guests at our office. Then, the director of sales asked us to head over to his office. I walked to his office alongside my three other co-workers. We looked at each-other and our faces read a mix of a little fear and expecting the already bad news.
The regional manager of sales for RNA (Regional North America) started with, “Well I have unfortunate news..” Immediately, we knew what was coming. He mentioned our positions were going to be impacted due to the merger, that this had nothing to do with our job performance, and we would soon be receiving a packet with information on how to proceed and the options we will have. I saw this coming but it was a complete shock. As we walked out I grabbed my phone, walked out of the office and proceeded to call my best friend. I cried and explained to her everything that happened and she listened and offered supportive advice.
I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t expecting these bad news but I was still in shock. The whole week we heard rumors and a memo from the board of directors left us feeling concerned. As I’m typing this I’ve had some time to process the news, cry and think positive thoughts. I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason and sometimes blessings work in disguise. At the moment I don’t know why or where this will lead me but I’d like to think and have faith that good things will happen. Time will tell and for now I will smile and focus on the things I have control over. I have control over how I spend my time, some of my thoughts and learning. Read and writing is helping me release stress and I want to continue to do more of it. We may fall at times but the important thing is to get right back up.
Hay ya ya, llegaron las fiestas y reuniones familiares durante las festividades del mes de Noviembre, Diciembre y Enero. ?Y que es la pregunta mas común que nosotras las mujeres siempre nos preguntan? Y el novio? Subiste de peso, verdad? Ja ja esto es típico. Por que la urgencia de que tengamos novio? A los hombres también les ocurre cierto incidente pero creo que a las mujeres les pasa mas seguido. Hay que mantener la calma y no dejar que ciertos comentario ni preguntas nos afecten negativamente. La mayoría del tiempo no tiene malas intenciones nuestros familiares al preguntarnos tales preguntas. Debemos de educarlos y hacerle saber que hay mejores cosas importantes en la vida que tener novio. Que al tener novio o no, no nos define como persona. ¡No se me agoten! La felicidad es por dentro. ¡Enserio! No es una frase que lo usamos los que estamos solo si no que es la pura verdad. ¿Como piensas que puedes ser feliz con alguien cuando no eres feliz contigo misma? Claro si se puede, pero ese tipo de felicidad no va a durar. Déjenme saber que tipo de comentarios o preguntas siempre les hacen familiares o amigos durante esta temporada de festividades. Que estén bien y que Dios o a quien le tengan fe, los sigas bendiciendo y llenando de bendiciones.
Image from Vivir en Totana Blog
I’ve been thinking a lot lately on the dreams I had when I was a child. When you’re a child, life is a care-free world, and you feel you could be and do anything your heart desires. As we get older, we realize what we always wanted to be isn’t the best fit or we simply find other interests. In which, there is nothing wrong with that. For my part, I feel like I gave up on my childhood dream too easily. Ever since I was in elementary school I wanted to be a news caster/reporter. I grew up watching the Spanish news on the Univision channel. Watching Maria Elena Salinas and Teresa Rodriguez conduct and deliver the daily news is a memory I always have when I think back about my earliest desires of wanting to be a reporter. Another famous figure is Jorge Ramos, who was also an influence to my childhood dream. I gave up this potential career in 8th grade during a project for my A.V.I.D class. The task was to interview a person in the field of career we were considering and I found out there was a lot of writing involved and that you needed to be a good writer. I usually didn’t do so well on writing assignments (grade wise). That was all it took for me to give up. I thought I wasn’t a good writer. Although, I enjoyed writing I felt it wasn’t my strongest suit. I was only fourteen years old and I gave up so easily. Now, that I’m older and with a Bachelor’s degree and working, I’m rethinking my career choices. The least I could do is take some introductory classes and see if this is really what I want. I’m not taking all of this lightly and I’m stuck in a trance but I at least have to give it a try for my sanity and to not have to live with all the doubts and “what if’s. Cheers to our childhood dreams. I don’t think it’s ever too late to be who you want to be. If it’s meant to be it’ll happen one way or another.
Writing this post has reminded me of the book, The Last Lecture By, Randy Pausch. I highly recommend reading it!
Changing is hard. One minute you’re super motivated in the next you don’t give a care in the world.
Do you ever find yourself going back into these bad habits that do us no good? That is my current situation and don’t see why I keep going back. Psychology may have the answers and I look forward to answer the following questions. If you have the answers, please, feel free to leave answers.
- Why do humans go back into bad habits they know are harmful to themselves?
- The explanation of human pleasure is it good or bad?
- Knowing something can be harmful in the long-run, why are we still inclined to it?
- Psychology and habit formation how are they lined?
By: Alejandra Salgado 8/30/17 11:30PM
Do you ever feel hopeless and see no clear path and/or direction in life? It’s OK, we’ve all been there. It is a terrible feeling. We get submerged in all these negative thoughts and can’t seem to get them out of our mind. Then, you find yourself feeling less accomplished than what you really are. All I know is that this behavior needs to stop. I find myself in this roller coaster of emotions from time to time but eventually “pull it together.” Luckily, I gather my thoughts, get myself thinking positive thoughts and gear towards the brighter side of things. Once I’m out of the dark-hole of self-pity I feel silly for have being upset in the first place. Sadly, not everyone is able to do that and will still allow to give into these negative emotions. Giving these emotions power will lead in no clear path for our goals but a path of doubts and sadness. After considering all these thoughts and knowing I’m not alone it leaves the following questions: “Why do humans engage in self-loathing behavior?” If we know how damaging self-pity can be towards our goals why do we continue to do so?” Thankfully, Psychology is here to lead us towards a close answer.
Apparently, there is a specific word for this type of behavior. It is called, “Self-Sabotage.” Self-Sabotage means we act against our self-interest. Whether it be procrastinating, being our own worst critic and not looking out for our self interests. Author and Psychologist, Robert Firestone calls this behavior the, “critical inner voice.” According to Psychalive.org, “The critical inner voice doesn’t represent a positive sense of self that you can entrust in. Rather, it epitomizes a cruel “anti-self,” a part inside us that is turned against us. It casts doubt on our abilities, undermines our desires, and convinces us to be paranoid and suspicious toward ourselves and those close to us. This anti-self fills our mind with critical self-analysis and self-sabotaging thoughts that lead us to hold back or steer away from our true goals.”
The reason we engage in such self-destruction behavior from the start can be due to our early life experiences. For example, growing up with an non-supportive family who viewed you as incapable. This can lead to growing up feeling useless and not having a positive image of ones’ self. This isn’t the case for many but can be a great start in trying to figure out the “why?”
There are many theories, thoughts, ideas out there but clearly we can see a pattern. If you’d like to learn more, check out the links below.